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Communication skills are very important in all aspects of your life. This section focuses on improving your communication skills. Many people find that their attempts to communicate with their loved ones do not always turn out as they would have liked. Listed below are problematic communication techniques. As you read over this list, see if you recognize any of these techniques in your communication style.
Do you recognize any of the poor communication techniques in your own communication?
Have you ever had a fight with someone and said: "You always do that!" "You never listen to me!" "You are wrong, you do not know what you are talking about!"
If you notice you have been very angry or confrontational lately, see if you have been exhibiting any of these bad communication skills. It can help you express yourself better.
Now that you can recognize bad communication, learning effective communication is the next step. Effective communication is something anyone can learn and being an effective communicator can help you in every aspect of your life. It can improve your relationship with your wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend, with your doctor/nurse, with your children, with your friends, and your co- workers.
One way to communicate better is to improve your listening skills. Try to concentrate on what the other person is saying and put yourself in their shoes. See if you can find even a little bit of truth in what the other person is saying. Try and do this even if you are totally convinced that the person is wrong. Also, if you can find just one positive thing to say to the person during an argument to show that you still care about them, this can go a long way toward dissolving the disagreement.
Another way to defuse a tense situation is to try and repeat what the other person is saying. Sometimes if you repeat after them or summarize what they have said, they feel somewhat appeased and assured that you are at least listening to them. Sometimes you can even ask them: "Tell me how you are feeling. That must have made you very upset. I understand."
Try and phrase sentences so that you are discussing how you feel as opposed to blaming the other person. For example, you could say "I feel sad or mad" rather than "You are wrong!" or "You always do this!" Try and show some respect to the other person during the argument.
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